Jonse wrote:Took too long to learn you never get anywhere in this trying to be kind to people.
The reason dishonesty and unkindness spread like diseases through social circles and communities, especially dishonesty, is because of good-intentioned kind people realising that they are surrounded by the dishonest and the unkind. A lot of people feel that they are at an unfair disadvantage being an honest and kind person when those who manipulate and create negativity when backs are turned can fool people into thinking that they are just as nice or more nice than the honest person who does not take advantage or lie or steal when the backs of the people who's opinions one cares about are turned.
A lot of people around me in reality are sociopathic manipulators who have spent so long creating a front, creating a personality that is false, that they have lost sight of who they are. I try always not to let this make me any less of an honest and transparent person and I do my utmost to be kind to people. Not kind as in "Here is a homeless person. I will start recording them with my camera and give them a sandwich so that everyone knows what a great kind person I am and I can use it as social currency in a world of people who can't see through it" but just small things. I started noticing that there are many small opportunities that arise every time I leave the house to be helpful. People don't always like it though so I am careful, I've had my fingers stamped on by someone thinking I was trying to steal their change after they dropped a few pennies on the shop floor in front of me the other day. Its sad that their first reaction was "Theif!" but hey.
Sorry, this comment trailed on somewhere and it is probably unrelated. I just started typing.